So when I was first working on this cutting out negativity business, I had to find something replace it with. I started reading One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp. It was recommended to me by someone who could see I was falling into a trap of negativity that I couldn't get out of. Please read this book. Please read the chapters over and over and let them linger in your thoughts throughout the day and in your dreams at night and while you're driving and eating dinner and singing your babies to sleep at night. Ann Voskamp captures the heart of being a human- how we want to be better, but it's hard to break through the everyday. Every word resonated with me. (Well, I take that back. The last chapter wasn't my cup of tea, but I don't have to agree with every word she says. She's not the Bible.)
Within her book, she talks about documenting thankfulness everyday. Starting that journal helped me see things in a completely new light. It gave me something to replace my negative thoughts with. When I would start to get bogged down, feeling justified in my sadness; I would stop and find something good in the situation. As I started searching for God's goodness in my everyday life, I began to thank and praise Him more for who He is, what He does, and how He loves so incredibly well.
It was a much needed paradigm shift for me. For my family. For the innocent bystanders at Wal-Mart that got knocked upside the head with my annoyed looks, rants, and frustrations with people who park their cart in the middle of the aisle just to hack me off.
Perfect at it everyday? Nope. Not a chance. Trying to change my mindset to Kingdom things and off myself? Totally trying.
So read the book. Let God show you some things.